Hey there, Well-Beings! Long time no write, eh? I’d originally planned on not coming back until after the beginning of January, but that little voice within told me to share what I’m doing tonight, so here I am, back a little early to share my secrets for setting up a successful year with you. On a side note, I noticed this will be my 100th post, so it looks like I’ll have something else to celebrate tonight! I’m not exactly filling the champagne flutes with bubbly over here, but I am pre-gaming 2017 by getting some things out on paper. I’m not making resolutions, though. Nope, I’m doing something much more effective and so, so much more fun.
2015 was one of the best years of my life. I checked so many amazing things off of my life list that I would be hard-pressed to find another year in my memory that competes with it. I became certified as a Usui reiki master and teacher, I studied craniosacral therapy, I certified in kundalini yoga and pranayama, and became a teacher of numerous disciplines of meditation, amongst many other life changing goals that I had set out to achieve. It’s no wonder on December 31 of 2015, that I had a glimmer of hope and my eye, and a lot of enthusiasm about what 2016 would bring.
Buuuuut, 2016 did not go so well. In fact, for all the joyful moments and extreme highs that the prior-year had brought me, I would say that 2016 presented me with the same number or more challenging experiences and soul crushing lows. Yes, a good chunk of that was in the sheer volume of personal heroes I said goodbye to this year, but a fair amount of blame rests on my own shoulders, as well. It’s not that I failed to plan; it’s that I failed to plan in the right way, and it changed my course so significantly that I almost handed in the towel on this whole blogging business and just walked away from everything I’ve spent two years creating. What a difference a year makes, huh?
So here’s what I learned. Making a list of traditional resolutions? Waste of my time, my ink, and my paper. What I needed to do was get back in touch with how I wanted to feel. Ya feel me? When I rang in 2015, I had just read Danielle Laporte’s book The Desire Map. A lot of you are already familiar with the book and the process of desire mapping itself, but in case you’re not I’ll give you a very short summary. Goals are great, but they are not really what we’re after. What we truly want is the feeling associated with achieving those goals. When we zero in on how it is we want to feel, the roadmap for getting there often becomes far more expansive. For example, maybe we have “Run a Marathon” on our resolution list, but a month into training we become sidelined by a major injury. That can really wreck a person’s resolve, especially if they don’t understand that the underlying reason they want to run that marathon is because they want to feel accomplished. While waylaid with the injury, there could be any number of other ways a person could continue the path toward feeling accomplished. They could learn a foreign language, they could teach themselves to paint with watercolors, they could work for that promotion, or they could write that novel that’s been building inside them for years. When you are not married to the what, the how can present many opportunities for success.
So back to December 31st 2014, I just finished reading The Desire Map, and something about goal setting had really clicked with me. I started 2015 with a Desire Map Day Planner, which gave me a daily opportunity to focus on the things I most wanted to feel that year. Looking back on the things that I accomplished, on the things I was most proud of and the things I considered my highlight reel, they so closely followed my CDF’s, or my Core Desired Feelings, that it’s of little surprise that I got exactly where I wanted to go. I felt my way there.
Here’s a little secret: These are my 2017 CDFs!
Now, 2016? That was a different story. I used another planner, and I’m not knocking it. It was colorful, and beautiful, and it had some helpful features that I really appreciated. What it didn’t do is have me focusing on a daily basis on exactly how I wanted to feel, and that seemingly small difference is what made all of the difference. This year totally got away from me.
The clarity that I had in 2015 was mucked up, muddied and altogether missing from 2016, so this year, I’m going back to basics. I’ve got my markers, my washi tape, and my colored pencils out and I’m going into 2017 heavily armed. I started yesterday by making myself a wish list. Not a list of resolutions, but a list of things I really wanted to see happen this year. What that’s going to help me do tonight, is isolate the reoccurring themes for how it is I most want to feel this next year. From there, I’ll be able to design a map that will get me there, and if I find I need to change direction at any point in time in order to arrive at my Core Desired Feeling, I will be able to give myself the freedom to do so. No harm, no foul; just good feelings.
I know you’re probably seeing this year off tonight, but I’d love to hear how you’re planning to make 2017 your best year ever. Do you Desire Map? Do you make resolutions? Is there something else you do successfully to reach your goals? Share in the comments below. Let’s help each other get where we’re going!
Wishing You Total Well-Being (and a New Year Full of Feeling Good),
P.S. Exciting Tejomaya Wellness news coming in the New Year! I cannot friggin’ wait to show you all the goodness I have in store for you!