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Month: August 2017

Gratitude Review: August

  Hey there, Well-Beings!  It’s the last Sunday of the month, and you know what that means.  Time for another Gratitude Review! I’ve had a fairly eventful month, which usually doesn’t start happening for me until September when the temperature begins dropping. We’ve had some unseasonably cool days and a lot of rain, which hasn’t done much for the humidity, but things are so green and pretty right now.  It’s given me a reason to plan another photo shoot before we trade the summer blooms in for fall leaves. I’m excited because I may get to team up with a talented photographer friend for a day trip to some of my city’s best spots, if the weather continues to cooperate.

Speaking of cameras, I finally upgraded my phone a couple of weeks ago.  I’m a little embarrassed to admit it, but I have been hanging on to my previous iPhone for nearly 5 years! It was time for a better plan and a better phone, and the camera on this thing is making me so happy.  I’ve been testing its capabilities on everything from flowers to flat lays and while I’m still learning how use all of its features, I sure am having fun with it and I’m so impressed with what I’ve been able to do with it so far.  I think it’ll be a great tool to help me with product photography for my business, so I’m thankful that I made the investment.

I had the pleasure of listening to an incredible speech this week that was such a welcome kick-in-the-motivation. I think even the most diligent artist or entrepreneur can lose their fire if they aren’t strategic about fueling it on a regular basis.  It helped me realize how much I’ve let my self-improvement habit slip under the stress of the last year and it helped me recommit to doing something every day that teaches me something , sharpens my skills, helps my business, or allows me to remove roadblocks from my path. I also ended up with a few new books, which was my favorite part of being in the self-improvement habit before.  I’m always grateful for a reason to read!

I also committed to a new process for eliminating clutter which has been really helpful, and I tend to be a bit of an unruly collector. Thanks to a brilliant post from Be More with Less that showed up in my Facebook feed last Friday, I have just completed my second Decluttering Burst. The goal is to let go of 100 things in less than an hour. It sounded difficult at first, but once I got going, it was so freeing. I know so much of this is dependent on the size of the things you are parting with, but I was shocked that I exceeded my goal by 12 items and I didn’t even fill an entire trash bag.  To be fair, I parted with a lot of things like receipts and small broken items that I knew I was never going to repair, but the high from getting those things out of my home has made me want to tackle each room in that way.  It went so well this morning, I just might give it another go before the day is done! I’m so thankful for this useful and easy practice.

What has August given you that you’re grateful for today?  Cultivating gratitude gives us a chance to purposely seek joy in moments that might otherwise pass us by. Leave me a comment below with your favorite moment of the month. Let’s celebrate your wins and walk into September ready to create a whole lot more of them.

Wishing You Total Well-Being,


Tender Hearts and Tragedy: What’s a Sensitive Soul to Do?

    How are you holding up, Well-Beings? It’s been a difficult couple of weeks, hasn’t it? The merciless events in both Charlottesville and Barcelona are weighing so heavily on my heart, as I’m sure they are with you, too. I know that division is nothing new, but damnit. How is it ever okay to take the life of an innocent person for simply not being like you? The only good thing that ever comes out of these senseless acts are the crusaders and heroes that rise up, take charge, and lead us toward change. I’ve always wanted to be as strong as they are in the face of unbelievable adversity, but I simply never felt like I had enough of the grit and daring that those roles require. Still though, I could never shake the feeling that my empathy was a sign that I should contribute in some way. That it was strategically given to me so I could do something that would comfort and encourage others. I just didn’t know how to help without my soft-heart getting in the way.

Here’s the thing, not everyone is cut out to fight the battle from the front lines. The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve realized that there’s nothing wrong with not being blessed with the natural ability to speak out, lead rallies, and start revolutions. That doesn’t mean you’re powerless, it means you’re more valuable in a support role. It’s something I realized when my grandmother passed away unexpectedly several years ago.  My family was suddenly faced with a number of extremely difficult decisions to make, and though I wasn’t very good with handling those details because of my tender heart, I saw that I could provide comfort to my family in other ways that would serve those I loved.  I fed people and made sure everyone was drinking plenty of water. I cleaned up.  I did laundry. I ran errands. I did the things that no one else had the time or the energy to think about, and in my own way, I think I stepped up when it mattered.

If you’re not quite sure where you fit, but know that you need to do something when tragedy strikes, below are some suggestions for my sensitive souls:

  1. Get Involved – One of the best ways to help is to find an organization doing good things in the world to promote social justice, feed and clothe those in need, and spread a message of peace and love to all. Volunteer your time when you can and support them with financial donations, no matter how small, when you can’t.
  2. Be An Ally, a Safe Place, and a Good Listener – Be there to comfort and encourage your friends. When attacks, either international or local to you, are racially motivated, target people of a specific religion, or are aimed at someone based on how they identify or who they love, reach out and let them know that you’re there for them. Let them talk. Let them cry. You don’t have to have the answers, just support them with your presence.
  3. Be an Includer and an Encourager – Most of us know what it’s like to be the new kid or to feel singled out for one reason or another. If you see someone being picked on at school or work, invite them to sit with you. Share a meal with them. Make it a point to be a friendly face who earnestly checks in on them, and makes sure they’re doing okay. You have no idea how much difference you can make in a person’s life by just having the courage to be kind.

If your heart is broken by tragedy and you want to contribute, I hope that you never mistake your softness for weakness and that you never let it stop you from sharing your greatest gift with the world. You, with so much love to give to those who are hurting, are not weak. Your tenderness carries more influence than you realize. It carries hope, and that’s what’s going to get us through this.

Wishing You Total Well-Being,


From the Archives: Don’t Have a Cheat. Have a Treat!


  Hey There, Well-Beings! 

I’m replaying an article that’s been close to my heart as I’ve been completing a wonderful course about self-love that’s been created with so much care by the wonderful owner of Olivine Atelier (which you should check out if you’re into beautifully crafted perfumes and gorgeous little gifts that amp up your joy in a big way). I’ve been revisiting and doing some healing of some body-issues I’ve had as I’ve watched myself change over the past twenty years and it’s reminded me how powerfully our words can create or undo the goodness we want for ourselves. I hope you enjoy this insight from 2015 about the compassionate shift we can have in our thoughts about food. I hope it inspires you to speak to yourself more kindly.

Wishing You Total Well-Being,



I’m concerned about the use of the phrase “cheat meal”. I see it all over social media and fitness forums, and something about it isn’t sitting right. I think it puts a negative spin on the entirely positive and awesome decision people make when they decide to eat healthfully.

One could argue that I’m just being silly about semantics, but I believe it runs much deeper than that. I believe it’s about our mindset when it comes to food and that starting with the words we allow to leave our lips or fingertips, we form the thoughts that can make or break us. Hear me out while I get to the heart of the matter; your heart.

Taking good care of yourself should be a choice you make with a joyful heart each day, not a chore. Stuffing yourself with sad salad all week so you can go buck wild on a cheeseburger and milkshake on Saturday is a kinda crappy way to exist, don’t ya think? Restriction isn’t, or at least shouldn’t be, the name of the game. If your day to day is so joyless that you have to cheat on it once a week, maybe you should try shifting the way you think about it.

Eating well fuels your body. You give it the proper nutrients to keep it functioning optimally and in return it gives you sustained energy and wellness to do both the things you need and want to do. It’s a fair trade, especially when you weigh the way you feel when you drink a smoothie vs the way you feel when you eat from the drive-through. Sometimes, yes, just sometimes, you really want that bag of peanut butter M&M’s or to actually eat a sno-cone with your kids, and by infusing that desire with guilt by suggesting that you’re somehow cheating by having it, it strips you of the joy you experience when you receive something you really, totally and completely want. Please don’t do that to yourself, Darling Heart. Life is meant to be lived!

Do I want you to make good choices that help you live a long, healthy, happy life? You betcha! There’s room for both smart eating and lovely indulgences, though. Don’t cheat yourself by feeling bad about wanting what you want and treating yourself to it now and again. In fact, call it a treat meal! Call it self-care! Call it “I wanted some damn pizza and I don’t care what anyone else thinks about it!”. Call it whatever you need to call it to get the unnecessary negativity out of the middle of your joy! You may even find that the longer you purposefully practice this, the more you may find your heart hearts a weekly kombucha or daily green juice and all from just watching your words!

Wishing You Total Well-Being,


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