I’m replaying an article that’s been close to my heart as I’ve been completing a wonderful course about self-love that’s been created with so much care by the wonderful owner of Olivine Atelier (which you should check out if you’re into beautifully crafted perfumes and gorgeous little gifts that amp up your joy in a big way). I’ve been revisiting and doing some healing of some body-issues I’ve had as I’ve watched myself change over the past twenty years and it’s reminded me how powerfully our words can create or undo the goodness we want for ourselves. I hope you enjoy this insight from 2015 about the compassionate shift we can have in our thoughts about food. I hope it inspires you to speak to yourself more kindly.
Wishing You Total Well-Being,
I’m concerned about the use of the phrase “cheat meal”. I see it all over social media and fitness forums, and something about it isn’t sitting right. I think it puts a negative spin on the entirely positive and awesome decision people make when they decide to eat healthfully.
One could argue that I’m just being silly about semantics, but I believe it runs much deeper than that. I believe it’s about our mindset when it comes to food and that starting with the words we allow to leave our lips or fingertips, we form the thoughts that can make or break us. Hear me out while I get to the heart of the matter; your heart.
Taking good care of yourself should be a choice you make with a joyful heart each day, not a chore. Stuffing yourself with sad salad all week so you can go buck wild on a cheeseburger and milkshake on Saturday is a kinda crappy way to exist, don’t ya think? Restriction isn’t, or at least shouldn’t be, the name of the game. If your day to day is so joyless that you have to cheat on it once a week, maybe you should try shifting the way you think about it.
Eating well fuels your body. You give it the proper nutrients to keep it functioning optimally and in return it gives you sustained energy and wellness to do both the things you need and want to do. It’s a fair trade, especially when you weigh the way you feel when you drink a smoothie vs the way you feel when you eat from the drive-through. Sometimes, yes, just sometimes, you really want that bag of peanut butter M&M’s or to actually eat a sno-cone with your kids, and by infusing that desire with guilt by suggesting that you’re somehow cheating by having it, it strips you of the joy you experience when you receive something you really, totally and completely want. Please don’t do that to yourself, Darling Heart. Life is meant to be lived!
Do I want you to make good choices that help you live a long, healthy, happy life? You betcha! There’s room for both smart eating and lovely indulgences, though. Don’t cheat yourself by feeling bad about wanting what you want and treating yourself to it now and again. In fact, call it a treat meal! Call it self-care! Call it “I wanted some damn pizza and I don’t care what anyone else thinks about it!”. Call it whatever you need to call it to get the unnecessary negativity out of the middle of your joy! You may even find that the longer you purposefully practice this, the more you may find your heart hearts a weekly kombucha or daily green juice and all from just watching your words!
Wishing You Total Well-Being,